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Love Loving

The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.

Ernest Hemingway

Love Loving Yourself

How special are you in terms of your own opinion? Concerning this question in my own life, I came to see that from the age of seven years (I cannot recall anything before that time) to just a few years ago; I had many fears and insecurities.

When I was a teenager, I embarked on a long-time affair – with a mirror, yes a mirror! And probably connected to the fact that I noticed the opposite sex found me attractive. Naturally, I wanted to take full advantage of this newfound interest.

My Love Affair

Love yourself to Freedom

While all this was taking place, unawares to me, there was the subconscious surfacing of my fears and insecurities. As a consequence, these began competing with my mirror affair. Something else that climbed onto the stage of my love affair at this time was the increasing use of my imagination. I began pretending to be someone I was not (a type of Walter Mitty – by comparison.)

Love Yourself First

Today I know that I could have saved myself heartache and grief. These fears and insecurities would cause me to be co-dependent on the partners with whom I loved above myself. I discovered self-love only a few years ago. Since that discovery, I broke the chains of co-dependency.

Ancient Words of Wisdom

An ancient scripture reveals that we must love others as we love ourselves. The ancient text also states there is no greater wisdom than this action. What we don’t immediately illumine is this:

‘We cannot love anyone too much if we don’t love ourselves as much.’

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