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Love Loving

The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.

Ernest Hemingway

Love Loving Yourself

How special are you in terms of your own opinion? Concerning this question in my own life, I came to see that from the age of seven years (I cannot recall anything before that time) to just a few years ago; I had many fears and insecurities.

When I was a teenager, I embarked on a long-time affair – with a mirror, yes a mirror! And probably connected to the fact that I noticed the opposite sex found me attractive. Naturally, I wanted to take full advantage of this newfound interest.

My Love Affair

Love yourself to Freedom

While all this was taking place, unawares to me, there was the subconscious surfacing of my fears and insecurities. As a consequence, these began competing with my mirror affair. Something else that climbed onto the stage of my love affair at this time was the increasing use of my imagination. I began pretending to be someone I was not (a type of Walter Mitty – by comparison.)

Love Yourself First

Today I know that I could have saved myself heartache and grief. These fears and insecurities would cause me to be co-dependent on the partners with whom I loved above myself. I discovered self-love only a few years ago. Since that discovery, I broke the chains of co-dependency.

Ancient Words of Wisdom

An ancient scripture reveals that we must love others as we love ourselves. The ancient text also states there is no greater wisdom than this action. What we don’t immediately illumine is this:

‘We cannot love anyone too much if we don’t love ourselves as much.’

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I Fly Solo-Wisdom Snippets From Peter.

First Solo

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On this earth I will live life to the full, yet will I take my wings and fly high as well. As a result, the higher, I fly the more I can see. Above all, seeing is the fruit of believing.

I see miracles daily, They are all around me in the most eye-opening forms. As a consequence, the moment I gained awareness, my eyes were opened to many miracles in my life.

I can never say that I know someone or something for certain, not even myself.

My dreams are important to my onward journey. Above all, I need to keep them before my eyes; I need to sharpen my focus. As I focus, I generate energy into my dreams and cause them to materialize. The fact is that focusing requires a certain skill and I work on this skill daily. The benefits are encouraging.

I was recently given an assignment; to study Ogden Nash and then using his style, write a few poems of my own. This was a first for me and as a result, I wrote rather a long piece (which I never presented for the assignment) just to share with you, a special event in my life:

My First Solo.

Once I was earthbound and rather sad.

I was not happy with this, it made me quite mad.

One day I saw an airplane alighting into the sky.

She seemed like a feather as she climbed up high

I said to me, this is where you should be

In that plane, flying, that will be me.

I found an instructor, who beckoned me to follow

Delighted, in his steps I was aglow.

High into the sky, we alighted

And I became exceedingly frighted.

No matter said he, take the controls and see

That before long a pilot you shall be.

One day he climbed out of the plane

Telling me to fly, I said you’re insane

I was terrified you see

To fly all by myself, just me!

The plane wanted to fly

Being much afraid I could not see why

She leaped off the runway

As I felt my tummy heading toward my lower-way

My fears were then allayed

As my instructions I obeyed

And soon I was sailing in the still blue

The plane was happy too.

I was yelling, I can fly, I can fly

As free as a bird through the sky

Then a voice told me it was time to land

To herald my arrival I expected a band

As her wheels kissed the tarmac

I said, now you are a pilot; pat on the back.

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Mountains-Wisdom Snippets From Peter.

Mountains

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I have read, “Faith can move mountains.” The question I have is this, “Once moved, where do I relocate them? Most importantly I have discovered, moving mountains is one thing, relocating them is another.

I changed things in my life after a very meaningful lesson. To start with, every relationship I experienced over the years irrespective of whether it was business, life partnership, or friendships, needed support. Most importantly, they had to be founded on three pillars: Love, transparency, and respect. However, I must explain the word love and the context in which I use the word: Agape (Greek) means the love we have for our fellow humans. Fileo (Greek) means the love we have for parents, children, and siblings. Eros (Greek) Means romantic love.

We are made of all those who have built and broken us. (Atticus Finch Quote from To Kill a Mockingbird.) What if we are not so much built and broken by others as we are built and broken by how we respond to their building and breaking of us?

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Master-Wisdom Snippets From Peter.

Master

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I am a man who has a ship full of dreams and I am the wise master of this ship. Moreover, because I am the master I can steer my dreams where I will.

The principle of giving results in receiving, accordingly I shall give my life all I have to give. As a result, I will receive a state of abundant living.

My heart is filled with a treasure of enormous wealth. So no one will ever be able to take this away from me. While I live my heart remains within me.

The wisdom I have accumulated in my life took a long time to fill me. Now I have it, it is here to stay.

Although I experience daily changes, my goal is unchanging. To live a wonderful life, and this to the full.

My long life, like a deep well, has much to draw from, and it’s always cool and fresh to the taste.

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Fate-Wisdom Snippets From Peter.

Fate

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What fate awaits us all, when this life is done? Above all, we are certain to die, sooner or later. By the way, this is an indisputable fact;  and still, none return to tell us about their fate. I wonder why?

My life is like a beautiful, never-ending dream; And it is such a joy, I never want to wake.

The need for daily moment-to-moment faith is a non-negotiable learning curve.

I wonder if this life of mine is a training course for a very much more advanced way of living?

If I look out on my surroundings, earth, the universe, I accept my mind has to enlarge to accommodate these.

I get the feeling that our Creator keeps a journal on every persons’ life. Not so-called rights and wrongs, but their joys, sorrows, successes, heartaches. Surely it is only this information that our Creator keeps in this journal?

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Concentration-Wisdom Snippets From Peter.

concentration

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With my life, the end is never in sight, so I’m left with a concentration on the present – whoever designed this concept is brilliant!

In my life, I have a loving, caring, uncomplaining wife, she is a gem of a woman. And I love her so.

I wonder how much of my life is divinely inspired, influenced, controlled? There appears to be a strong current flowing through it. When I swim against it, I struggle; when I release my grip, I drift with the current.

Focusing on my dreams, developing emotions for them, and seeing them in the light of now, not tomorrow, helps them come to pass.

What has been given to me in this life is a gift. As I share it with others It increases the value of what I have been given, by at least a hundred times or more.

I have a backpacker nature, and as my stay in this world is temporary, I will not shoulder any inessential loads whatsoever and will travel light.

I have been searching for ways to improve my focus and concentration, it’s not easy.

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Identity-Wisdom Snippets From Peter.

Identity

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My true identity is me, not the thoughts in my mind. While the thoughts in my mind are placed there by the ego – the speaker, I am the listener. What is most important is how I respond to what I hear. If thoughts engender such things as fear, doubt, anxiety, and multitudes of other negatives, I simply observe them and then, allow them to drift out of my mind. If thoughts of love, joy, peace excitement and such fill me, I embrace them fully.

I am determined to be happy every day of my life. To say nothing of the fact that I never have to wait and see what the day brings. Additionally, I walk happily into each day irrespective of what it may bring.

This is wise thought management, considering that thoughts become actions and these will have future consequences, it is vital I choose correctly.

When I make a statement regarding myself, I put it out there for all to see; that way I had better live up to what I say.

I recall when my mind was opened up to what my life and identity were all about, there was enormous freedom that resulted; it was like a surgical lamp that shone into my innermost, and under the lamp, all the darkness vanished.

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Idiosyncrasies-Wisdom Snippets From Peter.

Idiosyncracy

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If my personal idiosyncrasies draw scornful thoughts and remarks from others it becomes their issue, as it will hurt them more than it does me. Idiosyncracies are flags of character, don’t you think?

Now that I am a while past the three-score and ten mark I feel I have earned the freedom to enjoy my idiosyncrasies and funky dress.

Sometimes the other side of the custom coin is greed and vice.

I think it is important for all of us to dream of wonderful things happening in our lives; equally important is to be grateful for what we have, whilst we wait for these to eventuate. We all have lives, we don’t all live them.

I found that many things that I wished for, came to pass, but then so did many of those that I feared.

Dynamic Flexibility

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We are always evolving. Our daily circumstances change all the time. Every day is different. That is why our idiosyncrasy must be approached with dynamic flexibility. We should never be too structured nor too spontaneous. Imagine a river with two banks. On one side you have structure and on the other spontaneity. Our job is to make sure the river doesn’t flood on one side. Too much structure and you become rigid. Too much spontaneity and you wind up in chaos.

In the context of a family, this means you need to adapt all the time. You have your ideal structure for the day and your perfect bookends. But then life happens. You don’t sleep well and miss your morning routine. Your daughter throws a tantrum and you lose your calm. The truth is things will never go as we want them to. We have to accept reality and see how we can navigate it. After all, as Dan Siegel says “flexibility is the hallmark of healthy beings”.

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Spirituality-Wisdom Snippets From Peter.

Spirituality

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Spirituality is, at the very least, a mystery. At worst, it can be slavery. While conforming to the ways of the universe is rewarding, slavery to human interpretations of spirituality can destroy my freedom and joy.

I find it fascinating; the more I discover about myself, the more there is yet to discover. Seems to be no end to this state.

Is all that matters to me right now honestly matter at all?

I never run dry on things to do.

Specific philosophy I understand in theory. Yet, it is much harder to apply to my life. Then again, how important is a philosophy?

To question is human, but in a moment of critical decision, it is not an option. In this case, immediate action is wiser.

It seems to be the road of the spiritual search is an exceedingly long one. I believe it only comes to an end in eternity, at which point, I assume, we will find out if we used our opportunities in life well enough.

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Flexible-Wisdom Snippets From Peter.

Flexible

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I have an ordered but flexible life. I live this lifestyle for no other reason than my personal comfort. To be flexible is to come away from slavery to orderliness.

Achievement is like a person who sees an opportunity, seizes it with both hands, placing it into the wardrobe of their mind. Then wearing it on a suitable day

I am grateful that some of the things I wished for in my ignorance, never came about in my life. I would not be writing these lines if they had.

Making use of as many opportunities as possible must surely be a gift.

I am a forward thinker and I maintain this state by constantly researching.

What is a forward thinker?

I consider myself to be a forward thinker. Although, I must admit to not being a forward planner; more of a forward dreamer. Planning is an excellent idea for those who like to set goals, strategize, and then monitor their accomplishments. I am essentially a confident person who believes in himself; Although there are times when making presentations, for instance, my knees wobble a little. Whether you are a forward planner or dreamer, it helps to see yourself accomplishing your desires. One characteristic I have is that of effectively managing my thoughts. And I believe it to be an essential ingredient to achieving your plans or dreams.

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