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Wisdom Snippets From Peter-Loving Life

Life

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Five Wisdom Snippets To Help You love Life.

I have discovered that I learn so much more when I keep my mouth Shut. With my mouth shut, I am considered wise and loving.

I have a wonderful life as I take ownership of the hurdles I encounter journeying forward. These hurdles don’t belong to anyone else, they are mine. As a result, I am the master of my own destiny, having been given this mandate by God within me. I have truly found a loving life.

Each day brings new opportunities into my life and I am discovering how to identify them

Never whinge; winging is like bad breath – creates a poor image of oneself. Another thing, I never explain myself to others, it seems like a fruitless pastime to me.

I always try to put myself in other people’s shoes. Working from my shoes only limits my true perspective.I think the journey of my life is like climbing a mountain, along the climb there will be brief rests; I welcome these, but I must never linger there. To do so, would mean I will delay reaching the summit.

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Finding Your Purpose – Hunter S. Thompson

Hunter Thompson

Credit for Article and Feature Picture: On Finding Your Purpose: An Extraordinary Letter by Hunter S. Thompson (tranquilmonkey.com) Published unedited by Sir Peter James Dotcome.

In April of 1958, Hunter S. Thompson was 22 years old when he wrote a letter on the meaning and purpose of life when asked by his friend, Hume Logan, for advice. In just a few paragraphs, Thompson’s letter offers deeply thoughtful ideas, and what makes it all the more profound is the fact that at the time the world had no idea that he was about to become one of the greatest writers of the 20th century.

Thompson was not successful when we wrote this letter, so his beliefs on purpose were just hypothetical, or maybe statements of faith. But if the idea that we become what we fervently believe holds true, then Hunter S. Thompson is perhaps the best example of a man who lived totally reaching his highest potential. Let his words of wisdom inspire you and change your perspective on life:

“I was not proud of what I had learned, but I never doubted that it was worth knowing.” – Hunter S. Thompson


April 22, 1958
57 Perry Street
New York City

Dear Hume,

You ask advice: ah, what a very human and very dangerous thing to do! For to give advice to a man who asks what to do with his life implies something very close to egomania. To presume to point a man to the right and ultimate goal — to point with a trembling finger in the RIGHT direction is something only a fool would take upon himself.

I am not a fool, but I respect your sincerity in asking my advice. I ask you though, in listening to what I say, to remember that all advice can only be a product of the man who gives it. What is truth to one may be disaster to another. I do not see life through your eyes, nor you through mine. If I were to attempt to give you specific advice, it would be too much like the blind leading the blind.

“To be, or not to be: that is the question: Whether ’tis nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, or to take arms against a sea of troubles … ” (Shakespeare)

And indeed, that IS the question: whether to float with the tide, or to swim for a goal. It is a choice we must all make consciously or unconsciously at one time in our lives. So few people understand this! Think of any decision you’ve ever made which had a bearing on your future: I may be wrong, but I don’t see how it could have been anything but a choice however indirect — between the two things I’ve mentioned: the floating or the swimming.

But why not float if you have no goal? That is another question. It is unquestionably better to enjoy the floating than to swim in uncertainty. So how does a man find a goal? Not a castle in the stars, but a real and tangible thing. How can a man be sure he’s not after the “big rock candy mountain,” the enticing sugar-candy goal that has little taste and no substance?

The answer — and, in a sense, the tragedy of life — is that we seek to understand the goal and not the man. We set up a goal which demands of us certain things: and we do these things. We adjust to the demands of a concept which CANNOT be valid. When you were young, let us say that you wanted to be a fireman. I feel reasonably safe in saying that you no longer want to be a fireman. Why? Because your perspective has changed. It’s not the fireman who has changed, but you. Every man is the sum total of his reactions to experience. As your experiences differ and multiply, you become a different man, and hence your perspective changes. This goes on and on. Every reaction is a learning process; every significant experience alters your perspective.

So it would seem foolish, would it not, to adjust our lives to the demands of a goal we see from a different angle every day? How could we ever hope to accomplish anything other than galloping neurosis?

The answer, then, must not deal with goals at all, or not with tangible goals, anyway. It would take reams of paper to develop this subject to fulfillment. God only knows how many books have been written on “the meaning of man” and that sort of thing, and god only knows how many people have pondered the subject. (I use the term “god only knows” purely as an expression.) There’s very little sense in my trying to give it up to you in the proverbial nutshell, because I’m the first to admit my absolute lack of qualifications for reducing the meaning of life to one or two paragraphs.

I’m going to steer clear of the word “existentialism,” but you might keep it in mind as a key of sorts. You might also try something called “Being and Nothingness” by Jean-Paul Sartre, and another little thing called “Existentialism: From Dostoyevsky to Sartre.” These are merely suggestions. If you’re genuinely satisfied with what you are and what you’re doing, then give those books a wide berth. (Let sleeping dogs lie.) But back to the answer. As I said, to put our faith in tangible goals would seem to be, at best, unwise. So we do not strive to be firemen, we do not strive to be bankers, nor policemen, nor doctors.WE STRIVE TO BE OURSELVES.

But don’t misunderstand me. I don’t mean that we can’t BE firemen, bankers, or doctors — but that we must make the goal conform to the individual, rather than make the individual conform to the goal. In every man, heredity and environment have combined to produce a creature of certain abilities and desires — including a deeply ingrained need to function in such a way that his life will be MEANINGFUL. A man has to BE something; he has to matter.

As I see it then, the formula runs something like this: a man must choose a path which will let his ABILITIES function at maximum efficiency toward the gratification of his DESIRES. In doing this, he is fulfilling a need (giving himself identity by functioning in a set pattern toward a set goal), he avoids frustrating his potential (choosing a path which puts no limit on his self-development), and he avoids the terror of seeing his goal wilt or lose its charm as he draws closer to it (rather than bending himself to meet the demands of that which he seeks, he has bent his goal to conform to his own abilities and desires).

In short, he has not dedicated his life to reaching a pre-defined goal, but he has rather chosen a way of life he KNOWS he will enjoy. The goal is absolutely secondary: it is the functioning toward the goal which is important. And it seems almost ridiculous to say that a man MUST function in a pattern of his own choosing; for to let another man define your own goals is to give up one of the most meaningful aspects of life — the definitive act of will which makes a man an individual.

Let’s assume that you think you have a choice of eight paths to follow (all pre-defined paths, of course). And let’s assume that you can’t see any real purpose in any of the eight. THEN — and here is the essence of all I’ve said — you MUST FIND A NINTH PATH.

Naturally, it isn’t as easy as it sounds. You’ve lived a relatively narrow life, a vertical rather than a horizontal existence. So it isn’t any too difficult to understand why you seem to feel the way you do. But a man who procrastinates in his CHOOSING will inevitably have his choice made for him by circumstance.

So if you now number yourself among the disenchanted, then you have no choice but to accept things as they are, or to seriously seek something else. But beware of looking for goals: look for a way of life. Decide how you want to live and then see what you can do to make a living WITHIN that way of life. But you say, “I don’t know where to look; I don’t know what to look for.”

And there’s the crux. Is it worth giving up what I have to look for something better? I don’t know — is it? Who can make that decision but you? But even by DECIDING TO LOOK, you go a long way toward making the choice.

If I don’t call this to a halt, I’m going to find myself writing a book. I hope it’s not as confusing as it looks at first glance. Keep in mind, of course, that this is MY WAY of looking at things. I happen to think that it’s pretty generally applicable, but you may not. Each of us has to create our own credo — this merely happens to be mine.

If any part of it doesn’t seem to make sense, by all means call it to my attention. I’m not trying to send you out “on the road” in search of Valhalla, but merely pointing out that it is not necessary to accept the choices handed down to you by life as you know it. There is more to it than that — no one HAS to do something he doesn’t want to do for the rest of his life. But then again, if that’s what you wind up doing, by all means convince yourself that you HAD to do it. You’ll have lots of company.

And that’s it for now. Until I hear from you again, I remain,

Your friend,
Hunter

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Why Write? – Part Eight

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If you have just joined us, then you need to read previous editions in the series, you will find these here:

With each publication in this series, I was giving you assignments to do and asked you to return these to me for editing. This way you sent in your effort, which I called a ‘submission’ and I send back a ‘correction’ to you. In doing this, you ended up with a comparison.

If you have just joined us, you are free to submit the earlier assignments to us for correction, to help get you started.

Otherwise I have discontinued this routine for practical reasons.

As discussed in part Seven, discipline is a vital characteristic for a writer. As discipline is a learned state, we can all, with no exception, develop the habit. If you are a competitive sports person, fitness of body and mind as well as honing the skills required for your particular brand of sport are all essential factors.

Competitive sports people set markers along the pathway to achieving their goals; by virtue of the fact that this system is used world-over, it is probably achieving its purpose.

Writing is no different.

As writers, each of us can use the system above to reach our dreams and I am sure many authors will attest its success.

Best selling author Paulo Coelho wrote that, early in his career, he set down to write at 8 am. Took time off for lunch then worked on to five pm. From what I recall, his wife was influential in helping him to apply this discipline. In more recent times he attests to first thing, spending time finding reasons to avoid starting his writing. Once he starts he will write onwards through the day into the night.

Setting a goal and then staging markers to the point of completion, did not work for me. This maybe something to do with the fact that I am a pantser and or the fact that I was officially diagnosed ADD.

What has produced results for me, so far, is at prescribed times I sit down and write for as many hours as I have available. This is my discipline. I think that I am extremely fortunate, inasmuch as I love writing so much, it is not difficult for me to start writing and continue for hours on end, punching out about 800 to 1500 words an hour. Thank God, so far, I have never had ‘writer’s block.’

Bottom line though, is disciplining myself to write at prescribed times. Disciplining myself to set about my home-based business, in order that my bank balance stays out the red. Assisting my wife wherever and whenever she allows me to do so. Fortunately, my wife’s passion is to see me achieve – for this I shall be eternally grateful.

I have discovered this discipline has allowed me to accomplish without goals and markers. Discipline has kept me in that place where my passion is allowed to drive my creativity and send me across the finish-line of accomplishment.

In short, get down and do it – consistently.

That behind us, let us touch on two important writing points:

  1. Over Used Words.

These words I tend to overuse: ‘that, and, so, was, then, also, great…..’the list is endless. Visit this link: https://www.grammarly.com/blog/common-adjectives/

In my opinion overused words water down our creativity. Diluted creativity bores our readers and is a sure sign of immaturity. You would be quite surprised if you went over your recent writing efforts and see how many of these words you use sub conscientiously.

Try this exercise: Without giving it any thought write a quick seventy-five words; you should be well equipped to do this by now. Take the completed article and see how many over-used words you can find.

Rewrite the article removing these words and replacing them with more imaginative one’s. In many cases this will require a change of layout in your sentences. You may even have to completely rewrite certain sentences.

Once you have completed this, you will be surprised at what a far more interesting article you have written.

  1. Use of dull unimaginative words, especially adjectives and verbs.

Take your rewritten piece above and now set about changing as many words with others. Try this link:  https://www.merriam-webster.com/thesaurus/. You will find interesting synonyms here.

On finishing this exercise, compare your present article with the first and you will be pleasantly surprised.

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Lockdown – Day 46

 

‘Snollygoster’

Politics is the breeding ground of the snollygoster politician.

Such breeding ground is not new to the universe, having originated in biblical times; its tentacles reach all over the world, no countries excluded.

It is driven by greed; but worse, it is the lust of humanity to exercise power and control over fellow humans. It is the worst and most dangerous virus in the world, having killed more humans than any plague in history.

Via the fear of a virus pandemic, we have been blinkered from seeing the real killer virus – a global economy ruled by snollygosters!

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Lockdown!

Our President placed this country under lockdown as at midnight on Thursday, March 26th.

I am the oldest member of my immediate family, which consists of two children and five grandchildren, living in five different homes within a twenty five kilometer radius of one another.

I have never experienced a ‘lockdown’ before.

I grew up in the latter part of the great war and lived in tough post war times following D-Day. My father and three uncles were part of the war machine. One uncle was killed and thankfully my father and his brother came home to us.

I watched two sons conscripted into the war machine in the ‘80’s. Both came home alive, one was wounded and recovered physically, but never psychologically.

Thankfully my grandchildren have grown, one in his teens, four into their twenties. Two have university degrees and three are on their way; all have good homes.

At the onset of Covid-19, my grandchildren, faced with far greater media hype than I ever experienced, were placed in a situation of doubt and concern; notwithstanding their access to information on the internet and research skills acquired in the course of their education, or maybe, because of this fact.

We parents are faced with both the concerns for our children and the economy of our country; it’s population of fifty seven million souls; six million of which live in our city. We are concerned for our own Small Businesses, the livelihood of which supports our family.

This, in addition to our biggest concern for the potential physical effects of the virus upon our population in a third world country, which could not cope with a pandemic, like say, Italy!

In this country, we have the best government since 1994. Our President and Minister of Finance are very capable men (my opinion). So, from a security and economic perspective we have a small chance.

From the virus viewpoint, where the greater percentage of our people are not familiar with preventative measures that need to be applied and our country having very limited medical resource to cope with the size of our population, “Solum habemus fide in Deum – In God alone we trust.”

From what I can gather, our government, businesses and many responsible people, seemed to have galvanized themselves into action. If my Grandchildren asked me what more could be done to help, I would have to say that, outside of following good hygienic preventative measures and obeying what our government have instructed – nothing.

What I would tell them is: we need to look in another direction. Into that lesser understood place within ourselves. That place from which we receive priceless advice, honest advice, advice we are able to rely on.

In the event of some traumatic event affecting our family, our community, country, the globe, as the Covid-19 we face now, what is our very first turn? To fear. Fear of dying, losing a family member, relative, friends. Fear of lack, of material loss, of unemployment, the list is endless. Then we seek advice from wherever we can source it, reliable or otherwise, after which, we worry, even to the point of illness.

With any catastrophe there are certainly two issues that will arise in it’s wake:

  • We can do nothing to change the course of the catastrophe.
  • We can do nothing about the (possibly major) changes that will take place in our lives.

We should accept that the only place where we can make decisions affecting our future  is now, in this moment. The past is too late and the ‘future’, in reality, does not exist.

If we refuse to act in this moment now, we will find that our situation, after a night’s sleep, is in the ‘now’ of what we called ‘tomorrow!’

Among the farming and business population of the country in which I was raised, there was a common saying, “Next year will be better.” I left that country eventually, not by choice. The decision I had to make was almost immediate and I realize now that it was made in a moment called now. That ‘now’ was made fifty years ago and I am so grateful, that I made the move, as I have watched that country fall lower than its knees, laid waste by corrupt, greedy politicians.

Consulting our inner selves now and planning as to how we will live our lives, irrespective of what our decisions are, will allow us to navigate from today’s now, onward.

It will allow us to plan ahead, because that is wise; but to plan building our life’s foundations on a solid rock now, not wait for the elusive ‘tomorrow.’

It will allow us to live every moment of our lives in the now, because neither the past nor the future exist – the only time is, now.

We have been given an opportunity of, now twenty days, lockdown. An opportunity to:

  • Evaluate our relationships, spiritual and human.
  • Evaluate the things for which we need to be grateful.
  • Evaluate what is beneficial in our lives now and discard the unprofitable.
  • Evaluate what we tolerate and get rid of what’s useless for us to tolerate.

This list is by no means exhaustive.

In this moment NOW we have been offered a window of time to consider, what changes we can make, before changes, over which we have no control, will move in first.

Don’t waste this space pondering on what could happen, just make it happen.

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Things learned Along Life’s Way – Part Two

The Watcher.

The Watcher always looks at every aspect of life from a distance, as an observer, if you will. Never becoming caught up in anything, always watching from a distance.

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Decisions, Decisions.

Bexi's Decisions

Vanilla ice cream or chocolate cake? Close your eyes take a deep breath and just pick one. Go with your heart, rely on your gut. It’s really not that hard. I mean for me of course I would have chosen a slice of chocolate cake with a scoop of vanilla ice cream on the side, but some people might have found that choice quite hard.

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A Letter to the Younger Me – Part Two

A Letter to 3

Who knows what lies in the mind of a child? Dreams and hopes, fears and sorrows. A child who seeks from those whose love and care is craved, just a smile, a word of approval, a touch of a hand, carried on a shoulder big and strong; lifted up and tossed into the air, then safely caught in strong hands…….

Who knows what lies in the mind of a child?

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A Letter to the Younger Me – Part One

A Letter to 3

 

 

Who hears the cry of the child within and does not feel their pain. Does not feel their loneliness? Who hears the cry of the child within and does not sense their abandonment. Does not feel their longing for tenderness, understanding?

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Becoming the Person you want to BE – (Two)

Dreams 6

Following Your Dream

As I begun to “put pen to paper” (so glad I don’t have to go down that road anymore, as my handwriting is quite illegible, so much so, that my Mother, thought I would make a good doctor).

A little earlier, I read on my PNA desk pad, “Always invest in your dreams” So, why don’t we do just that – invest in our dreams….

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